Thanks for the ideas. There are things he could do, but apparently his idea so far has been to implicate me into it. Which is really strange. There were times early on in our married life when I could not participate in certain activities and he would not hesitate to leave me home with the children and go with the group and do things. I was not too happy then, but right now I would consider that a strike of luck. Well, I guess I am not that lucky, at least not so far. The idea of inviting people over in similar situation sounds pretty good, although he has obviously retired a little ahead of his age, so we have to wait a couple of years before we can see some of our relations in a similar pattern. Once again, thanks for the ideas. I'll keep them in mind and who knows, something may come up after all.
Your DH sounds like he needs to get a life. Seriously! His entire identity seems bound up in being the working male supporting his family. Without that, he's lost an essential part of himself.
Remember the old saying about 'when a door closes, another one opens?" That's what he needs to come to grips with. Is there anyone who can counsel him? The priest/pastor of your church, perhaps?
He has to realize he's still a vital, intelligent, experienced person, with much to give to others. Volunteer work would get him off the sofa and involved with helping others, which is always a good way to feel good about oneself. Finding a new hobby - adult education classes are a great resource - would probably perk him up no end. He needs to get out of the house, and make himself part of the community at large. Good luck to both of you!
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