Description:  Having been widowed once at age 49, I wonder what will happen if I am widowed a second time. Do you get the social security benefit of your most recent partner or do you get to pick which benefit you receive? My current husband is retired from the Army and if widowed, I would receive lifetime medical benefits through TriCare for Life. We are currently doing some planning for our retirement expenses and income projections should either of us be widowed again.