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If you are the proud parent of a college graduate, it may be possible that you haven't seen the last of them. Yes, it's sad but true. The economy isn't the strongest, and unemployment figures are still high. This might mean that your child will be moving home from college, or could be heading back home after a brief stint in the workforce.

These situations can be difficult for everyone. You cannot continue to act like you used to before they left. For one thing, they will likely not stand for it. And while you will always be the child's parent, your relationship is changing. If you don't adjust, the stress level at home is likely to increase.

It’s important that you not allow them to hang around the house without contributing. If your children are unemployed, they may not have money to pay rent, but they can certainly pitch in at home. Whether it is with chores, or other items around the home, children -- even those who are grown -- can be involved.

Make sure they are looking for employment. Whether you are helping them or not, they should be on the job search every day. The quicker they get a job, the quicker they can support themselves and move out. Even if your adult children don't move out immediately, they can still be motivated by the fact that they can pay their own way. It's an important boost to their self-esteem that can start them planning their futures.

Finally, if a significant amount of time passes (a year or more) and your child is still unemployed, it may be time for you to encourage them to change their strategy, whether it is by hiring a professional to help with their situation, or asking them to reconsider a job they wouldn't have looked for at first. This could motivate them further, and possibly kick-start the process of moving out and moving on.

 

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